Idris Elba. Ahhh, I needed to get that off my chest:) Now, I know that having a fantasy love is probably not cool but, what can I say! I really only think about him when I'm angry at hubby and for me it's kinda like leaving him, but not! When I'm mad at hubby, I usually escape inside of a story I'm writing, my lead characters of course are Idris and myself when I was single, not married:) Let me be clear, in my mind I haven't had a fantasy affair with Idris, I'm just in fantasy love! I find myself blocking the thought of an affair, even in my fictional story I will not allow my characters ( lost lovers from another world) the pleasure of a liaison, they only achingly long for each other at a shadows distance.
Seems wrong to want anyone other than your hubby even if it's a fantasy, feels like your cheating in your mind, right?
I turned to my friend Askwifey and asked her what her thoughts were on being married and having an off an on fantasy about another man. The first thing she said that made me laugh hysterically was, "Oh my gosh who is it someone at the baseball park?" Still laughing I said, "Um no!" When I told her it's a movie star she said, "Ooooh, that's OK, nothing wrong with that because he is definitely not tangible:)"
Hmmmm, you never know Wifey we are after all world travelers remember Capri?
Well here is the age old question, is it OK when your married to have a fantasy about another man even if you don't sleep with him in the fantasy? What if it's not a movie star and it's someone you know and find yourself thinking about this person, what do you do?
Here are some multiple choice questions I thought we could start with:
- A) Tell your husband
- B) Keep it a secret locked away in a folder buried deep in your computer encrypted
- C) Pretend hubby is your fantasy love
- D) Let Fantasy go, get hubby fashionably updated ASAP!