I wasn't really listening to her until some girl sat near us and those highlighted words were spoken, "She think she all that cause she is light skinned!" Those words spewing from her little lips, felt like the sound of nails scrapping across the blackboard and everything at that moment in the mall came to a screeching halt! I saw myself smacking her across that table but, I calmed myself and decided to use this as a teachable moment in color.
Me: Sydney what color am I?
Me: Speak up, I can't hear you.
Her: Your light skinned.
Me: So what do you think of your mommy and Aunt Audrey, your brothers or Unkie? We are all light skinned, do you think we think we are all that?
Me: So where did you get the idea to say something so negative like that?
Her: Well I was sitting with these girls in class and when (cant say name) walked in they said she thought she was all that because she had long hair and light skin!
As, adults we joke about who was in the field and who was in the Kitchen but, I thought this mentality, this archaic way of thinking was over, oh how naive I just realized I am. It is still sadly being enforced in our children today!
Me: Sydney do you like the color of your skin and do you think it's a pretty shade?
Her: Yes mommy.
Me: Would you want someone to talk about you and say, "She think she all that cause she's brown skinned and can tap dance?"
Me: Don't ever follow anybody into making you believe or say something that is hurtful, hateful and down right mean, OK? I love you, God created you and your beautiful outside and in:)
Her: I love you too mommy and I'm sorry:(
I think if we stopped talking about skin color in front of our kids, the color madness might fade away.
(me and my daughter Sydney pictured below)
I know this is an age old topic but, it is still going on today!
Please, no matter what color you are I'd love to hear what you all think?
I just read Mama Kat's post this week please check out her blog when you get a chance she always makes me want to write:)
I decided to dedicate this post today to her prompt:
#2 I was holding on tight but,
Click on her button to the right:)